Love is complicated.
Your relationship doesn’t have to stay stuck.
Couples Therapy & Relationship Counseling in-person in Rochester, NY and online throughout NY.
The problem isn’t always what you are fighting about.
IT’S WHAT KEEPS HAPPENING BETWEEN YOU.
One of you reaches connection and the other pulls away. One criticizes and the other gets defensives and shut down. Before you know it, you’re having the same argument again. Over time, these patterns leave you both feeling alone, misunderstood, and disconnected.
Before you know it, you keep having the same argument on repeat.
And while you might be arguing about money, sex, parenting, or whose turn it is do the dishes, there is more that is happening underneath the surface.
That’s where our work begins.
The complicated parts of love.
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When every conversation seems to become an argument.
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When you miss the closeness you once shared.
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When you’re unsure whether to stay, leave, or find another way forward.
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When trust has been broken and you’re trying to understand what to do next or how to pick up the pieces.
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When the past keeps finding its way into your present relationship.
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When you’re navigating complexities of ENM/Poly relationships, boundaries, and relational dynamics/agreements.
Sometimes the relationship needs more than couples therapy.
AN INTEGRATED APPROACH TO RELATIONAL HEALING
You can’t separate the relational from the individual. Sometimes the difficulties between partners are connected to trauma, addiction, attachment wounding, or individual experiences that need their own attention.
For couples seeking a more comprehensive approach, I offer a collaborative relational therapy program. Each partner works with an individual therapist while participating in joint sessions with both therapists.
It’s a different way of working with relationships. One that makes room for the complexity of both of both of you.