What if you could begin to take back your life and ease your suffering? To truly start living a joyful life.
EMDR for Love & Relationships
How EMDR Can Improve Relationships
Heal Past Relationship Wounds – Unresolved conflicts, betrayals, or emotional neglect can create triggers in current relationships. EMDR helps process these experiences so they no longer impact your connection.
Reduce Emotional Reactivity – If you find yourself shutting down, withdrawing, or overreacting in conflicts, EMDR helps you regulate emotions and respond instead of reacting.
Break Patterns of Avoidance or Over-Control – Many high-achievers struggle with vulnerability or over-controlling relationships as a defense mechanism. EMDR rewires these patterns to foster healthy emotional engagement.
Improve Communication & Trust – By processing past disappointments, fears, or attachment wounds, you can communicate with clarity and emotional intelligence—leading to deeper trust and connection.
Address Performance Anxiety in Relationships – Just like in finance, perfectionism and high expectations can create pressure in relationships. EMDR can reduce self-doubt, anxiety, and fear of failure in love. You might be performing in your relationships instead of actually living in them authentically.
Address Performance Anxiety at Work. – Is your relationship consuming your thoughts and impacting you at work? Enhance your Emotional Intelligence (EQ) with EMDR and watch how your mental blocks at work disappear.
Who Can Benefit From EMDR
High-achieving professionals who struggle with emotional connection or feel like they are performing/managing their relationship
Intellectualizers, living in your head instead in the present or in your body.
Individuals with past relationship trauma (betrayal, infidelity, divorce, neglect, etc.)
Couples experiencing repetitive conflicts, trust issues, or emotional disconnection
Those who feel emotionally distant or shut down but want deeper intimacy
What an EMDR Sessions Looks Like
Identify Triggers – Pinpoint the moments where emotional pain, avoidance, or reactivity show up in your relationship.
Reprocess Past Wounds – Use EMDR techniques to desensitize and rewire old emotional patterns.
Integrate New Beliefs – Replace old fears and self-protective behaviors with healthy relationship dynamics.
Strengthen Connection – Develop tools to improve emotional intimacy, trust, and communication.
As a Certified EMDR Therapist, I take the work you are coming to do with me seriously. As part of my extensive training and before we do the trauma reprocessing, I make sure your system and body can actually hold the emotions and experiences that might be suppressed. I will work as fast and focused as your nervous system allows, and I honor and welcome that experience with you.
Many people are nervous about starting EMDR and I totally get that. Every step of the way you’ll be informed about what we are doing and why, what I’m noticing, what you are noticing. You are embarking on a new journey and we can honor that in whatever way that takes shape in the therapy room.
Integrating Advanced Trauma Modalities: EMDR + Four Blinks + Flash + Advanced Flash Technique
While EMDR is powerful, trauma is not one-size-fits-all. Some memories are too overwhelming, too sensitive, or too “hot” to approach directly at first. That’s where I integrate Four Blinks, Flash, and Advanced Flash Technique, and other capacity building modalities.
These methods allow you to process traumatic or distressing material by interrupting the memory with a positive stimulus. Using controlled attention shifts between, container, calm scene, and a micro-slice of a memory— Four Blinks is able to reduce emotional distress of the memory quickly and effectively.
I tailor the work to your nervous system’s natural rhythms, we adjust the pace so the process always feels manageable. You remain in control throughout. Together, we cultivate a space that is effective, steady, and safe for deep healing.
Get more out of love and life.
Why Work
With Me
When you choose me as your therapist, you’re partnering with someone deeply committed to your growth — not just today, but for the long haul. I believe healing is a journey, and I’m constantly expanding my knowledge, refining my skills, and integrating what works best so that I can bring you the most effective, up-to-date, trauma-informed care- that’s why I' have gone through advanced training, as an EMDR Certified Therapist & EMDRIA Approved Consultant in Training™.
I don’t rely on a one-size-fits-all prescription. Instead, I draw on a wide range of modalities as a EMDR Certified Therapist™ — Four Blinks, Flash Technique, Advanced Flash Technique, Bowen Family Systems, Parts work, Relational Living Therapy, Gottman, the Enneagram, and so much more — it’s a tailored approach to what you need.
What that means for you: you get flexible, thoughtful care that honors your pace, respects your nervous system, and readiness for change. I meet you where you are — with compassion, presence, and clarity. I’m both warm and direct, creating a safe space that is also growth-oriented.
I also bring a relational lens to the work. For many people, trauma and attachment wounds show up in how we connect — to ourselves, to partners, to family, and to the world. We will trace patterns from the past, make sense of them in the present, and build a more authentic, aligned life with relationships. We will shift from performing in relationships to actually living authentically and relationally in them.
In short— TLDR: when you work with me, you’re not just getting a therapist who knows her stuff — you’re getting someone who is invested in your healing, equipped with a broad, evolving skill set, and dedicated to helping you reconnect with yourself and others.
If you’re ready for honest, thoughtful, trauma-informed therapy that meets you where you are — that’s me.
Let’s Work Together
Sarah Nunes, LCSW
Relationship & Trauma Therapist
EMDR Certified Therapist and EMDRIA Approved Consultant in Training™
